My close friends know it. If you want to see the disgust in my face, just tell me, “you are such a nice girl.” I don’t appreciate, what you probably mean as a compliment. Before this world did not move on from all the expectations towards those called “nice girl”, I would prefer to be seen as a nasty witch.This world is terrible to nice girls. Often patriarchal, manipulative, sexist. You know, everything is fine, until you do something, not matching expectations, related to your gender, age and appearance.
OUTFIT: dress – SheIn, shoes – ZARA, bag – Bijou Brigitte
I’m pretty young, I have curly hair and, sometimes, a wide smile. I love chic and elegant fashion. Those are enough reasons to arouse totally wrong assumptions about my personality, in the narrow-minded people.
As a result, I, more than often, experience people, surprisingly raising their eyebrows. They are surprised that my favourite movie is not Dirty Dancing. They are shocked, finding that I can get very angry, disagree, oppose and I curse, I am sarcastic and can’t stand any form of pressure, manipulation or patriarchal behaviour.
They are very surprised, because they thought I’m a nice girl. Well, I’m not and I have no intention to be. I’m polite, even kind, until the moment someone does give me a reason to be different. Then, I don’t hesitate a second to change into the nasty witch.
I don’t care about all those wrong assumptions anymore. I’m enjoying that surprised look, even consternation in people’s eyes. I’m not here, to fulfill someone’s assumptions. What about you?
I wrote the text above totally spontaneous and then I started to think about photos, matching to the topic. I didn’t have to think for long. These photos we took about two months ago in the Library and Learning Centre at the Vienna University of Economics and Business, designed by the architect Zaha Hadid, were clear choice. I admire her work for a long time and felt some special connection to her and her architecture. Zaha Hadid represents the woman of the future, to me.
Women of the future are all the women, refusing to live according to the society expectations. A woman of the future finds it strange, when someone asks her about the marriage or family plans. She only understands the open questions like “what are your plans, dreams or aspirations?”
When I decided I want to use these photos for the article, I started to look for more information about Zaha Hadid. I discovered many of her opinions related to the topic I decided to open in my blog, too. She was not a nice woman and she didn’t try to be. She was like every “woman of the future” herself and the whole world will enjoy the results of that, hopefully, in the coming centuries.
© Creative direction and editing: DANIELA RIFAI Photos: DANIELA RIFAI, MARTIN JESNY, HANA RIFAI